And here I go telling you that I really only write them for me. It is true. Except for when it isn't. And then it is up to you to decide when which is the case. Goodnight then.
How to Beat Sex Addiction
5 years ago
February 16, 2009
L-O-V-E
And here I go telling you that I really only write them for me. It is true. Except for when it isn't. And then it is up to you to decide when which is the case. Goodnight then.
February 15, 2009
Orgasm Gap
I just finished reading an article on feministing.com about what they refer to as the "orgasm gap." This gap deals with whatever creative statistics researchers discovered concerning women's less frequent rate of orgasm with sex. The blog post on feministing garnered a ridiculous number of angry comments, especially from the male posters. The article that the blog references, is a reference to the actual research...so reference twice removed, or something.
The article suggests a variety of reasons that women tend to have a lower rate of orgasm. Several of the male members of the community suggest that perhaps it is just easier for men to have orgasms due to size. I say, regardless of the reason for the number, perhaps that gap should shrink. Any man that complains that women are too difficult to please should perhaps become a little better acquainted with his hand.
One other interesting thing:
The article claims that “Women and men are more ambivalent about the importance of women’s sexual pleasure [outside] of relationships." This strikes me as hilarious. Why do women hook up with random partners? If it were me, I would probably be doing it for orgasms. So why do so many women have so few orgasms when hooking up? Do we really just need to be more vocal about what we want? Why are so many women so passive about their needs? I'm not entirely innocent of this myself. It is just easier sometimes to not say anything. But it isn't very satisfying, is it?
The article suggests a variety of reasons that women tend to have a lower rate of orgasm. Several of the male members of the community suggest that perhaps it is just easier for men to have orgasms due to size. I say, regardless of the reason for the number, perhaps that gap should shrink. Any man that complains that women are too difficult to please should perhaps become a little better acquainted with his hand.
One other interesting thing:
The article claims that “Women and men are more ambivalent about the importance of women’s sexual pleasure [outside] of relationships." This strikes me as hilarious. Why do women hook up with random partners? If it were me, I would probably be doing it for orgasms. So why do so many women have so few orgasms when hooking up? Do we really just need to be more vocal about what we want? Why are so many women so passive about their needs? I'm not entirely innocent of this myself. It is just easier sometimes to not say anything. But it isn't very satisfying, is it?
January 28, 2009
25
Rules: Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know more about you.
(To do this, go to “notes” under tabs on your profile page, paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your 25 random things, tag 25 people (in the right hand corner of the app) then click publish.)
1. I have a list 43 items long of goals that are semi-unobtainable, on the 43things website.
2. I have a desire to learn to play piano as well as Norah Jones or Michelle Branch, but lack the desire to spend the time learning.
3. I freaking love Louis XIV (the band). They're so dirty. I also love Hot Hot Heat. Oh, and the Dresden Dolls (and of course Amanda Palmer!).
4. One of the most beautiful things I have ever seen is a pair of Christian Louboutin pumps in patent black.
5. I have an intense yearning for all things red. RED, red.
6. I occasionally have a twitch in my right eyelid.
7. I adore anyone that can randomly quote Eddie Izzard.
8. I often read the missed connections on Craigslist. They are rather sweet in a desperate way.
9. My favorite website of all time is postsecret.com. Every secret is a reminder of how similar we all are.
10. Memories of London often provoke such a divine poignancy in me. It was a wonderful feeling watching Last Chance Harvey, and knowing I stood exactly where Dustin Hoffman stood on the bank of the Thames.
11. I want a Great Dane. Chris doesn't.
12. Chris wants a Jack Russell. I don't.
13. I just bought something fairly cool from Sephora, but I'm much more excited about the free sample of Agent Provocateur perfume that will arrive with it.
14. I finally found a field of psychology that interests me enough that I could strive for a career in it. Whaoo!
15. After a rocky start (of almost 20 years!) I am finally friends with my mom.
16. I'm getting a British Shorthair kitten in the spring or summer, and his name is going to be Sir Sebastian.
17. I feel so peaceful in cathedrals, but I'm not even slightly religious.
18. I'm truly loving the song New Soul, by Yael Naim.
19. I'm proud of my kid sisters and brother. They help me see the world through new eyes.
20. I never ever want children. I think they are wonderful, but just not for me. (Please don't tell me I'll change my mind when I get older. That is rather patronizing.)
21. I think it's hilarious that so many of the people Chris are in grad school with are people I work with in lab, and many of them have no idea that we are dating.
22. I am so in love with Alfred Hitchcock movies, and all the old bests (Cary Grant, Marlon Brando, Grace Kelly, Marilyn Monroe, Audrey and Katherine Hepburn, etc.)
23. I wish I could help my sister raise more money to go to Japan. What I have to give is only a drop in the bucket.
24. I have grand plans for so much more than I feel is possible for one person to accomplish in a lifetime. I worry about looking back at my life and having regrets.
25. I am determined to have no regrets.
(To do this, go to “notes” under tabs on your profile page, paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your 25 random things, tag 25 people (in the right hand corner of the app) then click publish.)
1. I have a list 43 items long of goals that are semi-unobtainable, on the 43things website.
2. I have a desire to learn to play piano as well as Norah Jones or Michelle Branch, but lack the desire to spend the time learning.
3. I freaking love Louis XIV (the band). They're so dirty. I also love Hot Hot Heat. Oh, and the Dresden Dolls (and of course Amanda Palmer!).
4. One of the most beautiful things I have ever seen is a pair of Christian Louboutin pumps in patent black.
5. I have an intense yearning for all things red. RED, red.
6. I occasionally have a twitch in my right eyelid.
7. I adore anyone that can randomly quote Eddie Izzard.
8. I often read the missed connections on Craigslist. They are rather sweet in a desperate way.
9. My favorite website of all time is postsecret.com. Every secret is a reminder of how similar we all are.
10. Memories of London often provoke such a divine poignancy in me. It was a wonderful feeling watching Last Chance Harvey, and knowing I stood exactly where Dustin Hoffman stood on the bank of the Thames.
11. I want a Great Dane. Chris doesn't.
12. Chris wants a Jack Russell. I don't.
13. I just bought something fairly cool from Sephora, but I'm much more excited about the free sample of Agent Provocateur perfume that will arrive with it.
14. I finally found a field of psychology that interests me enough that I could strive for a career in it. Whaoo!
15. After a rocky start (of almost 20 years!) I am finally friends with my mom.
16. I'm getting a British Shorthair kitten in the spring or summer, and his name is going to be Sir Sebastian.
17. I feel so peaceful in cathedrals, but I'm not even slightly religious.
18. I'm truly loving the song New Soul, by Yael Naim.
19. I'm proud of my kid sisters and brother. They help me see the world through new eyes.
20. I never ever want children. I think they are wonderful, but just not for me. (Please don't tell me I'll change my mind when I get older. That is rather patronizing.)
21. I think it's hilarious that so many of the people Chris are in grad school with are people I work with in lab, and many of them have no idea that we are dating.
22. I am so in love with Alfred Hitchcock movies, and all the old bests (Cary Grant, Marlon Brando, Grace Kelly, Marilyn Monroe, Audrey and Katherine Hepburn, etc.)
23. I wish I could help my sister raise more money to go to Japan. What I have to give is only a drop in the bucket.
24. I have grand plans for so much more than I feel is possible for one person to accomplish in a lifetime. I worry about looking back at my life and having regrets.
25. I am determined to have no regrets.
August 22, 2008
Manhunt
We let ourselves be too readily defined by the objects in our lives. Those major purchases. Your house defines you, as well as your car. What kind of TV you have makes a statement. Your TV's statement about your personality tells more than your clothes do. People tend to dress to give an impression about themselves. They clothes we wear may be telling, but not as telling as what we are not wearing.
I still have a difficult time wrapping my mind around "THE EXPECTED." Only capital letters will do. We are expected to go to college to get a good job. We are expected to buy a nice car with our new pay from the good job, right along with the nice garage attached to the nice house. We are expected to get married (because sex without marriage is illegal!) and have multiple children to fill up the nice house, followed all too quickly by funding our children's education so they too may buy a nice car, a nice house, a nice marriage. It just isn't worth it if you don't love your job. I won't say that I don't want that too. I do want a good job, but what makes a good job for me has very little to do with money.
What I want in life can't be made from money. I can't stand the idea of spending my life working toward financial stability, and finding out in the end that I wasted my time. There better be a lot more to life than all of that "EXPECTED" nonsense, and I am not going to wait around to let it find me.
July 6, 2008
While watching "Be Kind, Rewind"
Chris thinks it's funny when I go all explosively happy. You know, with the uncontrollable laughter and tears, and unbreathingness. There have been a few lately.
One: a comic in the Cyanide and Happiness series. http://www.explosm.net/comics/1270/ You may have to copy and paste, sorry.
Two: a Dane Cook segment. I don't remember which one. I wish I did. Check youtube for your own personal favorite.
Three: Today, on listsofbests.com, a list entitled "Quirkiest goals on 43things"
rig my car so windshield wiper fluid will hit the cars behind me
hack someone's computer and surprise them by remotely opening
their CD tray.
find out why crying makes you produce enormous amounts of snot
find out if the Hokey-Pokey really IS what it's all about
or, my personal favorite
play duck, duck, goose with a biker gang
In retrospect, these things really aren't that amusing. But they are. Especially that last bit. Really. Imagine it.
April 6, 2008
I've received a complaint or "I did not have sexual relations with that woman."
To whom it may concern:
I have received a complaint. A certain friend of mine believes that my answer to the question below, on a recently completed survey, is inappropriate and gives the reader "the wrong idea."
"18: Who was the last person you saw with their shirt off?
Jenny. Nice tata’s love"
I would like to clarify. Jenny and I used to date, yes. Jenny and I are still roommates, yes. However, we do not sleep together or even have the desire to do so. We are close friends. We are comfortable being close to each other, although in a purely platonic way. Some people find this odd. We do not.
I feel that the necessary parties (Me, Jenny, my boyfriend, and Jenny’s girlfriend) are aware of the platonic relationship we share. That is good enough for me. Also, The instance when I saw Jenny without her shirt was merely when I happened to glimpse Jenny in her sleeping attire...a sports bra and pajama pants. This is no cause for alarm, as most bathing suits cover far less skin. Also, I did not actually look at her breasts.
To cover myself more completely, I am not entirely sure why the maker of the complaint was offended. It may be because I refered to Jenny’s breasts as "tatas." The next time I refer to her breasts, I will make sure to employ a different word, such as "knockers," "melons," "dirty pillows," "tig old bitties," "gedoinkers," and/or "bahama mammas."
Thank you,
S
January 27, 2008
Love it!
Try Ludo, Love Me Dead. The song rocks, and the video is freaking great.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7EsRChKP5MQ
Sarah McLaughlin's Silence is amazing:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q_D_Aeqcidc
Pretty please: Don't watch that video, it sucks.
Also, Sarah McLaughlin's Dear God
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t4xgjgJkacU
Ignore the crappy video part.
For Lasagna?
http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Worlds-Best-Lasagna/Detail.aspx
It rocks.
For dessert?
http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Molten-Chocolate-Cakes-With-Sugar-Coated-Raspberries/Detail.aspx
Really very good, and rather simple to make
For Lingerie:
http://www.agentprovocateur.com/
This is not Victoria's Secret...the website is rather racy. Also, although the lingerie is to die for, it is extremely expensive. I will buy some when I'm rich.
I might buy the perfume when I have a little extra floating around.
For a good show: Les Miserables in London featuring this guy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r9LPdyooE9k
Watch until 3:25. It makes me cry
For comedy:
Eddie Izzard: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNjcuZ-LiSY
A Bit of Fry and Laurie: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwo8qxUit00
The Big Gay Sketch Show (TBGSS): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tc3hykV5hmU --Very funny, but a little naughty.
More later....but I love this stuff!
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